Disclaimer: Men, move on….this is for the ladies.
Surely you knew that as we discussed aging issues that this one would come along! Actually I would love to have someone “respond” with a take on “male menopause” or whatever we are calling that, because I will never be a male.
Ok ladies, so we all went to the “class” in about the fifth grade, and if our mothers hadn’t properly explained things to us by then, we got the idea of what was coming. And at that point, it was going to impact us for “the rest of our lives.” So we thought….
We spend about 40 years dealing with the monthly “curse.” I always liked that term myself, it really was what it was to me. Others might be offended by my use of the word, but this is my blog. I learned a few things later in life; that I had some issues with menstruation that were “cured” by pregnancy. Unfortunately that was only 21 months of my life (if you are doing the math, I had two miscarriages) so the rest of the time I was pretty much miserable. As a teen I took Darvon, which they have since removed from the market. Durn, I loved the stuff.
BUT, alas, at the age of 46 (there IS a GOD!) I went through menopause in three months! No kidding! Do you hate me yet? I took Prempro for the five years only that they recommend, and then went cold turkey without so much as a hiccup!
Well maybe. I have never truly had a hot flash that I can directly attribute to hormones. I have been hot. I have been cold. I have been embarrassed (another blog). I have had a fever with the flu. No “flashes” like I see happening to friends. None of that every other month for however many years and finally petering out stuff. Just done.
What is it about this “change” that makes women crazy though? I didn’t have what you medical people will call the “physical” symptoms, although I have had sleep disorders all my adult life and it has been intensified by menopause. Plain old fatigue can turn into all kinds of other problems in all kinds of areas. I am not going to talk about my sex life, but I am not the body I used to be! I think I am mostly affected in the emotional sector of my life, but again, how do you separate menopausal symptoms from “other” things that are just going on—moving through the stages of life? I can't do that.
I have friends who share their experiences with me, and I don’t truly relate. It was quick, it was done, and the issues I was facing in life could certainly be attributed to something else. I began a job that quickly turned into something other than what I was hired for; and it caused great anxiety. We used to joke that no one in their right mind would plan the beginning of menopause and working for so-and-so at the same time. He was well-known, demanding, but mostly you never knew who was going to show up for work on any given day. Outside of the work setting, I actually learned to like him!
I guess overall I have been fortunate and I definitely feel it evened out. When you are in bed two days a month during your early years, you deserve an easy menopausal experience. That’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it!
If you don’t hate me, please comment.