Relationships come in all forms. In my life, I have had the fortune of good neighbors wherever I have lived. One of my former blogs, “The Circle Won't Be Broken,” was written about getting together with my childhood neighbors.
|Danny, Edie and Shane. Wayne|
must be taking the picture.
I found this following item in my “Miscellaneous” folder on the computer, and thought, “I could re-purpose this for Connection Intersection.” It was written to our former neighbors and given to them upon the occasion of closing on our old house. We were neighbors from 1993 until 2007. These were the years we raised our children.
A good neighbor:
- Of course, picks up your mail and papers, takes them in the house and makes sure everything looks “normal”.
- Knows your pass code on the garage door.
- Knows your extended family.
- Remembers your birthday (of course there’s a good reason for that when you share it!)
- Is the emergency contact for your kids for the schools.
- Has a copy of your insurance card for the above, just in case!
- Comes over when you are sick, can’t get out of bed and need some 7-Up and sees that your five year old isn’t starving.
- Raises your kids when you aren’t around (or when you are).
- Has the privilege to be called by their first names by your children and vice versa, which you do not allow your children to normally do. However, when they become a lunch monitor, they become “Mrs.” or a coach they become “Coach”.
- Is a safe haven for your children in emergencies.
- Takes pictures of the kids every first day of school.
- Needs your son to catch one game of a double header, so goes out and buys a new right-handed catcher’s glove, which are impossible to find, pays for it himself, oils it up at noontime and puts it in the front window of his car, goes out at 2:00 and 4:00 to reoil it so it will be “broken in” by the next day to play ball.
- Disciplines your daughter for having a party when her parents are gone, but never tells you…. until years later.
- Sits through numerous ball games with you. Kibitzes when your sons are on “opposing” teams.
- Stands up and hollers, “that’s my other boy!” when your son makes a touchdown.
- Sits through numerous musicals with you.
- Sits outside with you in their driveway and decides it’s time to cut down that ugly tree in your front yard. This decision is made while your husband and children are on vacation.
- Keeps your cooler for three years, swears that they don’t have it, and then you discover it when they have a party.
- Lets you use their extra refrigerator for parties. I suppose this counter balances the previous item.
- Sits outside and watches lightening bugs with you in the evening.
- Comes and holds you when your brother passes away unexpectedly.
- Has their tables and chairs over to your garage so you can have the wake. You don’t even know when they arrived. That’s because the pass code is common knowledge.
- Takes care of the house while you are at the funeral and has all the food ready when you arrive home from the cemetery.
- And when you move away, and you need 6 chairs for a get-together, you call, they say “I’ll get them out, put them in the garage by the freezer and you know the code if no one is home!” And they know I won’t keep them for three years!
We have a great new house and we have good neighbors, but we will never have another Edie and Wayne and Danny and Shane!