My last blog was about handing off my son to the other woman. I am an old hand at this; but I have to admit, my son-in-law is a fabulous young man and it wasn’t hard. The daughter and he were engaged for 18 months and they had not dated five years, but by that time he was quite assimilated into our family.
|Wedding Day June 11, 2005|
Did the princess marry a man like her father? I don’t think so. I think she did better. It’s been interesting watching them do the dance of handling “issues” as they grew up together. She was only 21 and he 22 when they married. People thought they were nuts to marry so young, but they were mature beyond their years. As with all couples there were life choices and issues to navigate.
Among those were finding both jobs, then my daughter deciding to get a Masters, and my son-in-law studies for actuarial tests that when finished with them will give him more like a Ph. D in actuarial science. They built a house. But their toughest challenge was met when “having a baby” didn’t come in the time frame they wished.
They stood together through specialists; funny medicines which make you do funny things, and procedures that are invasive. In the end, they conceived the “normal” way. By then we were stunned. And of course, by then, I was a crazy woman. Since I am unabashedly pro-life, this person was real to me from the first day I knew.
But this blog is about the son-in-love. He’s tall, used to be a distance runner, is very smart and plans for their future. He somehow got us all watching golf, which is really an accomplishment in this family. He got his brother-in-law PLAYING golf, and unfortunately most of the time has to graciously lose to him. Having no sister, he actually is very cool about his first child being a female, and was delighted when his basketball team bought him a Little Tyke basketball set for her.
|Daddy and his little girl|
June 10, 2011
He and his brother-in-law are two peas in a pod and all four of the kids (daughter, son-in-law, son and fiancé) love watching sports, movies and playing Rock Band and generally enjoying each others’ company when they are together. By the way, that isn’t always at our home, they frequently get together at the home of daughter and son-in-law.
My son-in-law is a young man I can be extremely proud of personally and professionally and is very capable of raising the next generation in a way I know I will be proud of. He will handle that job with a balance of discipline and sensitivity.
He holds his little girl with such natural ease and I just long to say “Picture yourself giving her to some young whippersnapper in twenty one years!”